On your wedding day, when you said your vows and cried your eyes out from joy, you thought of a blissful married life ahead of you. Fast-forward to today, and you might be thinking of the dissolution of marriage and asking yourself, “How did I get here?”
Peace Depends on Understanding and Mediation
Suddenly, instead of love and happiness in your future, you face days filled with stress, worry, and a multitude of other negative emotions. It is only natural to seek a peaceful dissolution. Such an outcome ultimately lies in you and your spouse’s hands. Still, mutual respect and understanding, along with assistance from Colorado divorce mediation lawyers, can already bring you a semblance of peace during the dissolution process.
Admit the Impact
First, remember how an official dissolution of your marriage will impact everyone. “Everyone” means your children, you, and your soon-to-be former spouse. All of you will experience drastic life changes that will challenge you in different ways. Admitting such an all-encompassing effect of a marriage breakdown can ease both you and your partner’s resentment toward each other.
“I Understand You Are Affected Greatly”
Say it verbally to your spouse, and let your spouse admit the same. You must show respect to each other and lessen each other’s burdens in that way. Now, a marriage breakdown might be due to profoundly hurtful circumstances such as infidelity, addiction, abandonment, or something worse. Such reasons make it hard to give respect and understanding. Regardless, you can still try, for your own sake and your children’s.
Shorten the Process through Mediation
Next, you can contemplate and seriously consider divorcemediation. The dissolution of a marriage can take months, if not years, of emotional and financial hurdles. Using alternatives can shorten these months and years into a matter of weeks. In the end, you and your family will come out less traumatized and more hopeful for your futures.
Plan the Dissolution
Such an alternative process looks more like family planning with the assistance of professionals, whereas an official marriage dissolution looks like two parties having a spat. Family planning now appears more appealing than a messy fight between opposing sides. You and your spouse will have all the control as to all the decisions in your breakup. Make decisions that will be for the best for you and your children, too. You are the boss, not the courts and the lawyers.
Write It Down
Of course, you still have your fights and disagreements. Oral communication always has the risk of slipping into hateful speech. You can prevent this by writing to each other instead of speaking. It might seem impersonal, but writing can improve your communication with each other. Writing allows you to pick your words and the other person to digest what you wrote slowly. In this way, you can even make room for love, friendship, and empathy with the right words.
With all of these things, you can understand how you ended up experiencing the legal dissolution of your marriage. You can focus instead on a hopeful and happier future for yourself, your spouse, and your children. You might soon be single again, but you can imagine a blissful life ahead once more.